Anger and hatred are always felt. The point is not to be reactive in such situations, but rather be pro-active. In reactive mode, there is always a danger of giving in to lots of negativities where what may matter is trying to wretch away from pronouncement as felt by the victim and thereby merely helping to create further discord. It is the easiest way to be in a world where one may be easily trample upon and so become a mere puppet. In some ways, that is the trend is to adopt an instant mode of counteracting that feeling of injustice. One has learnt to do so all the time with the idea of quick responses and particularly so where there seems to have been an injustice as felt by the receiver. To nurture that feeling of being right whilst the other is lacking or may not be so gives added impetus to one’s resolve and so the proper course may be to appeal to that instinct of not letting oneself down.
It is a fact that going down such a route merely means that there is a collision awaiting to happen with one or the other party intent at crying out for justice and seeking redress. Whereas one does so via negatives, the other’s reactions are based on being on the receiving end of direct abuse as felt verbal or otherwise. It is all a case of lack of understanding from the other that may have led to the discordance. In this process there is no meeting of minds, or reaching out but a mere confrontation on how to be. All that one becomes surrounded with more frictions and discordances.
And so, the stark choice of friction and or further disarray is there becomes a reality with hostility , discontentment and bitterness carrying on as it is a norm or a normal way to be given the kind of arena we are in .To be so is verily a fact of being entrenched in contaminated consciousness within the realm of the material where all does is to hover around its boundaries and so it is a vicious circle or a trap that it is difficult to get out of…
….so, the subject carries on within that realm of contradictions and where frictions reign and somehow there is no escape as the choice has been selected as that which causes and or brings about aspects of negativism. There is no way out if one carries meeting the other through a norm of reaction. The alternative needs to be explored and or called upon where one looks ahead having taken stock of the problems inherent in maintaining the approach of the instinctive mode of being where mistakes are also instinctively made whereas on a more reflective way where one reflects and called to a halt whether it is bitterness, contempt, hatred, or verbal or other forms of violence.
The alternative uses a also arise a different strategy to respond, not necessarily that of being enraged as in a shouting match as the proactive way verily calls to stretch out even to the other who may not be amiable so that the process of seeking to comprehend any other begins regardless of their rudeness, or perceived discourteousness and or lack of civility in dealings with the other.
However, to do so requires one who is unique and not be someone who is attuned into the mundane as the latter has a set way which is learnt as being an act of survival of the usual form… ‘you like me. I like you. And you love me. So, I return the favour.’ But just try and do the opposite and all hell may go loose with one turning even the loved or desired one into almost a non-entity with that earlier loved being relegated to even hate. Try and talk to most who have broken up in relationships or divorced and they may easily vouch for such a common trend.
Material culture with its contaminated consciousness refers to mundane relationships where there are gains just like in normal business activities. If there is nothing for ‘me’; to be sure there is no interest from the other as the apparent motivation is based on aspects of lust and envy and greed at seeking more and more albeit in relationships so that one may keep going within that dungeon of desires.
Take away the desires and what is left is a fragmented animal who may feel there is no hope on the me-ism which keeps one active and firmly rooted into the zone of the material. The motivation are those crude desires, those feelings of happiness and enjoyment once taken out of the equation makes one perceive another realm of being where the crude form no longer exists.
Instead arises one who is not subjected to the format or constraints as placed by the instinct mode which calls for all things instant. And in instant comes the instinctive and following such a pattern which further adds on to disturbance and disharmony and where is no harmony, nothing creative may emerge. That is the kind of trend we have been used to. Or how one has adopted the survival kit of tit for tat….meaning meet hatred by the same category as one will return the favour of violence with the same vigour. Verily to be so entrenched even where one is not the initiator is to fall to prey to the mundane.
However, sages have long warned us that there are other ways than to counteract negativism than more of the same which leads nowhere but on a path of destruction. The prudent way is to explore alternatives, and or posing challenges to the ‘learnt’ way and try being that which make the other reflect as well. Whether, this be silence and or turning those negatives into positives it is for the individual to decide and seeing what may work given that one is drenched into contaminated consciousness.
What is non contaminated consciousness is for the reader to research and find out as there are ways which may not simply be just those instinct forms. What one knows is that it is of a different realm or perhaps that realm where one is at a different level of the mind away from that materialism unto the transcendental. So, what is the transcendental? Keeps searching………