To be closed means that one is limited in what one does or think and or that one’s activities based on choices are simply not there. To be able to see above and beyond what one does is that rare gift of opting to reach out not only physically or socially but to try to do so in every way possible.
The exclusivist sets a boundary around oneself based on a certain mode of being as predefined: Life thus are perceived from within that norm and all else are rebuffed or ‘tolerated’ at best where divisions of one form or other becomes the measure of being. It is henceforth a always about being and keeping that competitive mood in life.
It is a far cry from trying to move form one’s comfort zone and keep exploring other venues and trying out those realms of the possible so that one is cornered into a one way or fixation mode which set us to be in a set way.
By being in a set way the subject only has certain set values and may never aim to explore further. To be set in some ways means that ‘I’ know and the rest may not quite understand or that I know best or instead it is they who are limited. Let us explore this further: To simply adopt and live by a set regime does not mean that others are wrong and that one is always correct. Indeed, it is not a question of being right and wrong but to see how one’s world is either closed to some or whether these are limited by some ways which may or may not be quite authentic.
To have a balance in one’s life does not mean to be sure that one does is perfect mantra for anyone but far from it. It is up to each one to discover what works best for oneself. Whilst going through that route, one needs to beware of not entangling oneself in ways which upon projection may cause frictions with one’s long term goal. The easiest example is when one chooses illegal or otherwise intoxicants as a way forward as this will lead to complications and causes setbacks in one’s professional life for a start and possibly have drawbacks with family life apart from other personal problems.
What the subject does is ignore the widest window of spectrum available but instead simply chooses as per one’s whims of diktat of the mind. The thoughtful and reflective person stop pause and consider of all alternatives available. To be sure, it is a question to self teaching! Real life education begins when formal schooling and other college/university cramming in of knowledge comes to an end after being conferred with certificates.
Wising up, means more than just being independent financially and or physically. It is also about seeing how best to make use of ones’ time. How to learn and explore life as it is not how it had been input via knowledge input. Understanding of life forms take one to a realm of facing life as it is in its grandeur. Is one ready for such a challenge or does one take decision on the spur of the moment?
Does one require to be balanced in the ways of the world? And importantly does one need some self coaching which to be sure is simply about the notion of having that dialogue with the self in intense mode based on reflective thinking?
Am I really prepared for life transaction? Do I have a comrade whom I may trust and turn to? To be sure, this blogger will clearly state that a friend is not one who gives advice to do, one or a things in a certain way but in a way that real friend is he or she who makes the other reflect on the pros and cons of actions from every angle and leave one to decide for oneself.
Verily, it a question of growing up oneself rather than be dictated and or prompted into looking at anything form a plain superficial or mundane way. Project the outcomes of one’s actions and each decision that one’s makes. Does it enhance or betray one’s being? That is why it is imperative to turn to a comrade. The exterior one also may have his/her own saliency whilst the inner one may be useful only if she/he goes beyond the realm of the merely superficial…. Hence this bloggers’ point about being one who is never an exclusive type but prepared to reach out beyond boundaries in thoughts as well as all authentic deeds which enhance the self by opening a world of possibilities. If the reader’s inner comrade is so by all means engage in a pure reflective self dialogue with the self in matters of life otherwise, try using a self -development personal coach who should put one on tract in matters of comprehension and or living or being in tune with one self…. But bearing in mind it is verily the self who leads the query whilst the coach is there as the enhancer comrade who simply makes one reflects.
However, as one awakes after years of subjugation and being stifle as a youngster often it is one’s right to move along and explore that suddenly found freedom which emerges as one comes of age. Or indeed that is one perfect prerogative for finally arriving at a milestone where one may take decision s freely. All well and good but a word of caution is that some rash decisions often are taken when elder others pronounced one as being non responsible: Yet life is a learning process in that vast ocean of contradictions, a maze which the newly awakened adult finds oneself in.
The inner comrade may either be coached- awakened or simply turned towards. This process at least will substantiate that one is verily not grown up simply physically but has come of age also in at least the moral and other mental and or psychological level of being. Not to do so simply means that one’s actions are purely based as per the whims of the mind thereby setting us on the arena of the temporal where all are reactive. In this mode, one becomes a victim of one’s whims and so begins the start of a journey which one would take through hustles and bustles of the ways of the world and thereby learns through the endeavour of that superficial realm.
Is there an alternative? Can the operator within halt that process of being simply entangled and see ways beyond the temporal where the mind seek that which makes one’s cautious with the temporal and its frailties and frictions and see that other realm based on pro-activity. If so, what does it mean to be so? How does one awaken from a conscience of false ego? Who knows?