Sanity demands that one moves onwards rather than being stuck or backwards: Most of us are the point where there is little appreciation of the flux nature of things, meaning that one is contended to keep a status quo. To be in this position provides stability and the subject is able to plan ahead in that there are rarely things in life that are changed in a drastic way.
In relationships for instance, it is a given that there is a commitment to be with the other in spite of variables that emerges for most people. Others takes a swifter step that of moving on in their life as soon as it is observed that there is a lack of interest in the other from one or other party. In many respects, people moving on is itself to be applauded as there may be hardly much to be achieved by either party bar causing further distress in a volatile relationship.
When one reminisces, often to go back down in memory lane brings about those nostalgic moments as previously cherished and so we have a sense of adopting solidity as a way forward.
Our whole life in some ways is based on keeping that sense of always being so moved as there are things to hold onto……. without being reminded that what is present in life is a facticity not of permanent but more of its opposite where fluidity is really the norm by which life provides its way of teaching us always: That is, to move along and forwards rather than being entangled and caught up at a specific moment or in that lovely past dare one adds.
As one is entangled, attachment emerges in the equation in that there is almost a refusal to move along or onwards with almost an obsession to keep and choose based on essentially being stuck whilst a failure to appreciate that there is simply no firmness of being in any aspects of life as The Buddha reminds us through one of the three marks of existence.
Ignoring this remark entails that one remains at a level of non certainty. That in itself causes undue problems not only with oneself but with others about oneself as aspects of suffering ‘dukkha’ creeps in slowly.
And where there is dukkha, all is imbalanced as the subject still intent on holding firm to a certain mode of being and likewise ignoring that there is no essential being or the ‘atta’ aspect in life.
All is the opposite when one chooses to be analytical as the prince who left a life of luxury for a contemplative life taught us in his lifetime. Or the sooner one comes to grips with this dynamic of transiency one starts glaring at the unfolding stark reality as is presented in the course of life.
Or there is no permanence, all is in flux, dukkha everywhere and likewise verily no essential being to keep and hold on to.
From then onwards, one may move forwards and witness that which is and in doing so sanity returns and there is an apprehension of revelation about beingness without imposition or more precisely a way to be free of the contradictions, frictions, conflicts into which one is usually embedded with.
When this is so there is an inclination towards hatred, anger, confusions which give rise to other pettiness such as further disarray and sometimes either withdrawal of self or open violence, in its similar verbal or other forms.
All points as per such observation that one needs to move on wards if only for the sake of sanity of being but unfortunately the nature of life is such that one is entangled or stuck at a point where it seems there is no way forward.
This is so as there is attachment for more of the same or in brief of wanting more and more, a kind of craving for what is being missed. Or this is how the mind functions in search to be kept at a level where there are enjoyments and happiness unlimited.
The crux of the matter is that there is no such thing as keeping an ever going pleasurable state of affairs or to be brought back to that moments of nostalgia where things were after all delightful. The delight now gone and the mind still wish to keep hold of it.
Impossible to both go back and or so revel nor to recreate those moments gone. All that are left are memories, hence more a question of trying to simply be without any form of remorse with attempting to move on in all earnest rather than be stuck.
Those who have moved on or away from the past moments are the successful ones. It is all about seeing clearly what needs doing and not doing from a thoughtful perspective rather than being stuck at a point of keeping a status quo for its own sake.
Life is dynamic onwards process where one needs to consider the implications of pros and cons from a reflective perspective and or weighing a course of actions which brings sanity not only for oneself but also for others.
Not to do means that one may try imposing some ways based of a simpleton of holding back where every other alternative course of action seems non worthy due to one’s deeply held dogma of staying put and maintaining a way which in spite of causing distress is kept whilst alternatives are dismissed due to the lack of perception of seeing from any and every possible angle on the nature of the what is as unfolded.
One seeks to simply enjoy and enjoy based on a past perspective and keeping hold on inducing further craving. There is no sense of rational course of contemplation or action which may cause the subject moving on.
All is fixed and hence the problem of one who may be distress even when a viable alternative may be projected as there is a sense of contentment, a kind of never wanting to budge but holding on and or continue to explore ways of seeking more and more based on what has been experienced previously and or a refusal to simply pause and or move forward.
To move onwards seems not appropriate as one may lament over what may be missed. In the process to be sure, such minds may not even consider the lost opportunities at looking further than their petty self. Are you ready? Sure, it is all your call based on one’s personal in-situation!